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thedailywhat:
This Is All Kinds Of Wrong of the Day: Between allegedly inviting him to her birthday party, and probably collaborating with him on a “Birthday Cake” remix, and irrefutably thanking him for wishing her a happy birthday, I think it may be high time Rihanna re-read the police report from the night Chris Brown beat her half to death.
Particularly this part:
Brown did not know what she did with the [car] key and began punching her in the face and arms. He then placed her in a head lock positioning the front of her throat between his bicep and forearm. Brown began applying pressure to Robyn F.’s left and right carotid arteries, causing her to be unable to breathe and she began to lose consciousness.
She reached up with her left hand and began attempting to gouge his eyes in an attempt to free herself. Brown bit her left ring and middle fingers and then released her.
You nearly died that night, Rihanna. You nearly died that night.
“I’m going to beat the sh*t out of you when we get home,” he promised. You attempted to call for help and that just made him angrier. “Now I’m really going to kill you,” he vowed.
Any of this ringing a bell? Because I’ll never forget that night. I’ll never forget the horrific photos. I’ll never forget reading the terrifying police report.
And I’ll never forgive you for forgiving him.
[@rihanna.]
Domestic abuse is a big issue with me that I don’t really talk about that much, but it has affected my life incredibly. As in, if my mother hadn’t stood up for herself with her first husband, she would have died (he also said he would kill her). She wouldn’t have left him, and found my father. I am so completely disgusted by Chris Brown and the way society treats him, as if he has “atoned” and “is sorry” and “made a mistake.” Murdering a person is not a mistake. Forgetting to pick up toilet paper (sorry roommate!) is a mistake. Telling someone you are going to kill them while punching them in the face, repeatedly, is a choice. From reading the police report, Chris Brown made a BUNCH of mistakes all over Rihanna’s face over and over and OVER again. So many mistakes!
And now, I’m seriously mad at Rihanna. And I know it’s not my business and I know I’m not privy to the inner-workings of her or Chris Brown. I’m sure there are other sides of the story. But. The one side I do know is that Chris Brown ravaged Rihanna with his bare hands and I think that side…trumps any other side. Rihanna has the change, the opportunity, to show women all over the world (RIHANNA IS INCREDIBLY FAMOUS) that domestic violence is NOT OKAY. That it is actually OKAY to not forgive and/or forget what happened to you. That you do not HAVE to pretend to be friends with the person who nearly ended your life. That you don’t have to BE friends with the person. You can hate them. You can leave them. You can find your strength and get away from them. You have that power. And geez, Rihanna, you have that power too.
What are you doing, girl? What’s going on?
Domestic violence is gross and ugly. I hate this.
I’ve done things I’m not proud of in my life. Things that conceivably could have caused harm to other people. They weren’t accidents, but I would consider them mistakes. I would not want to be judged for the rest of my life through the lens of those actions, especially because I think I’ve learned from those transgressions and tried to atone for them through positive actions. Everyone who has ever driven drunk could be said to have come close to killing a person. I do not see every drunk driver as an attempted murderer because that is not how our culture perceives drunk driving. Similarly, when someone is raised in an atmosphere of domestic violence, as Chris Brown was, their perspective is forever skewed when it comes to the “wrongness” of certain types of actions.
I honestly couldn’t give a shit about Chris Brown’s music or his relationship with Rihanna, but I get a little heartbroken when I see countless people willing to write off another human as undeserving of happiness or a livelihood or forgiveness because of past actions, especially when those actions have been paid for in the eyes of the state and the victim. While it’s obviously OK to not forgive your abuser, it’s just as OK to forgive him or her if you believe they honestly deserve that forgiveness.](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzpp86X1Ai1qzpwi0o1_1280.jpg "digsyfinallyhasa:
thedailywhat:
This Is All Kinds Of Wrong of the Day: Between allegedly inviting him to her birthday party, and probably collaborating with him on a “Birthday Cake” remix, and irrefutably thanking him for wishing her a happy birthday, I think it may be high time Rihanna re-read the police report from the night Chris Brown beat her half to death.
Particularly this part:
Brown did not know what she did with the [car] key and began punching her in the face and arms. He then placed her in a head lock positioning the front of her throat between his bicep and forearm. Brown began applying pressure to Robyn F.’s left and right carotid arteries, causing her to be unable to breathe and she began to lose consciousness.
She reached up with her left hand and began attempting to gouge his eyes in an attempt to free herself. Brown bit her left ring and middle fingers and then released her.
You nearly died that night, Rihanna. You nearly died that night.
“I’m going to beat the sh*t out of you when we get home,” he promised. You attempted to call for help and that just made him angrier. “Now I’m really going to kill you,” he vowed.
Any of this ringing a bell? Because I’ll never forget that night. I’ll never forget the horrific photos. I’ll never forget reading the terrifying police report.
And I’ll never forgive you for forgiving him.
[@rihanna.]
Domestic abuse is a big issue with me that I don’t really talk about that much, but it has affected my life incredibly. As in, if my mother hadn’t stood up for herself with her first husband, she would have died (he also said he would kill her). She wouldn’t have left him, and found my father. I am so completely disgusted by Chris Brown and the way society treats him, as if he has “atoned” and “is sorry” and “made a mistake.” Murdering a person is not a mistake. Forgetting to pick up toilet paper (sorry roommate!) is a mistake. Telling someone you are going to kill them while punching them in the face, repeatedly, is a choice. From reading the police report, Chris Brown made a BUNCH of mistakes all over Rihanna’s face over and over and OVER again. So many mistakes!
And now, I’m seriously mad at Rihanna. And I know it’s not my business and I know I’m not privy to the inner-workings of her or Chris Brown. I’m sure there are other sides of the story. But. The one side I do know is that Chris Brown ravaged Rihanna with his bare hands and I think that side…trumps any other side. Rihanna has the change, the opportunity, to show women all over the world (RIHANNA IS INCREDIBLY FAMOUS) that domestic violence is NOT OKAY. That it is actually OKAY to not forgive and/or forget what happened to you. That you do not HAVE to pretend to be friends with the person who nearly ended your life. That you don’t have to BE friends with the person. You can hate them. You can leave them. You can find your strength and get away from them. You have that power. And geez, Rihanna, you have that power too.
What are you doing, girl? What’s going on?
Domestic violence is gross and ugly. I hate this.
I’ve done things I’m not proud of in my life. Things that conceivably could have caused harm to other people. They weren’t accidents, but I would consider them mistakes. I would not want to be judged for the rest of my life through the lens of those actions, especially because I think I’ve learned from those transgressions and tried to atone for them through positive actions. Everyone who has ever driven drunk could be said to have come close to killing a person. I do not see every drunk driver as an attempted murderer because that is not how our culture perceives drunk driving. Similarly, when someone is raised in an atmosphere of domestic violence, as Chris Brown was, their perspective is forever skewed when it comes to the “wrongness” of certain types of actions.
I honestly couldn’t give a shit about Chris Brown’s music or his relationship with Rihanna, but I get a little heartbroken when I see countless people willing to write off another human as undeserving of happiness or a livelihood or forgiveness because of past actions, especially when those actions have been paid for in the eyes of the state and the victim. While it’s obviously OK to not forgive your abuser, it’s just as OK to forgive him or her if you believe they honestly deserve that forgiveness.")
This Is All Kinds Of Wrong of the Day: Between allegedly inviting him to her birthday party, and probably collaborating with him on a “Birthday Cake” remix, and irrefutably thanking him for wishing her a happy birthday, I think it may be high time Rihanna re-read the police report from the night Chris Brown beat her half to death.
Particularly this part:
Brown did not know what she did with the [car] key and began punching her in the face and arms. He then placed her in a head lock positioning the front of her throat between his bicep and forearm. Brown began applying pressure to Robyn F.’s left and right carotid arteries, causing her to be unable to breathe and she began to lose consciousness.
She reached up with her left hand and began attempting to gouge his eyes in an attempt to free herself. Brown bit her left ring and middle fingers and then released her.
You nearly died that night, Rihanna. You nearly died that night.
“I’m going to beat the sh*t out of you when we get home,” he promised. You attempted to call for help and that just made him angrier. “Now I’m really going to kill you,” he vowed.
Any of this ringing a bell? Because I’ll never forget that night. I’ll never forget the horrific photos. I’ll never forget reading the terrifying police report.
And I’ll never forgive you for forgiving him.
[@rihanna.]
Domestic abuse is a big issue with me that I don’t really talk about that much, but it has affected my life incredibly. As in, if my mother hadn’t stood up for herself with her first husband, she would have died (he also said he would kill her). She wouldn’t have left him, and found my father. I am so completely disgusted by Chris Brown and the way society treats him, as if he has “atoned” and “is sorry” and “made a mistake.” Murdering a person is not a mistake. Forgetting to pick up toilet paper (sorry roommate!) is a mistake. Telling someone you are going to kill them while punching them in the face, repeatedly, is a choice. From reading the police report, Chris Brown made a BUNCH of mistakes all over Rihanna’s face over and over and OVER again. So many mistakes!
And now, I’m seriously mad at Rihanna. And I know it’s not my business and I know I’m not privy to the inner-workings of her or Chris Brown. I’m sure there are other sides of the story. But. The one side I do know is that Chris Brown ravaged Rihanna with his bare hands and I think that side…trumps any other side. Rihanna has the change, the opportunity, to show women all over the world (RIHANNA IS INCREDIBLY FAMOUS) that domestic violence is NOT OKAY. That it is actually OKAY to not forgive and/or forget what happened to you. That you do not HAVE to pretend to be friends with the person who nearly ended your life. That you don’t have to BE friends with the person. You can hate them. You can leave them. You can find your strength and get away from them. You have that power. And geez, Rihanna, you have that power too.
What are you doing, girl? What’s going on?
Domestic violence is gross and ugly. I hate this.
I’ve done things I’m not proud of in my life. Things that conceivably could have caused harm to other people. They weren’t accidents, but I would consider them mistakes. I would not want to be judged for the rest of my life through the lens of those actions, especially because I think I’ve learned from those transgressions and tried to atone for them through positive actions. Everyone who has ever driven drunk could be said to have come close to killing a person. I do not see every drunk driver as an attempted murderer because that is not how our culture perceives drunk driving. Similarly, when someone is raised in an atmosphere of domestic violence, as Chris Brown was, their perspective is forever skewed when it comes to the “wrongness” of certain types of actions.
I honestly couldn’t give a shit about Chris Brown’s music or his relationship with Rihanna, but I get a little heartbroken when I see countless people willing to write off another human as undeserving of happiness or a livelihood or forgiveness because of past actions, especially when those actions have been paid for in the eyes of the state and the victim. While it’s obviously OK to not forgive your abuser, it’s just as OK to forgive him or her if you believe they honestly deserve that forgiveness.
